So (hetero) women have this uncanny trick when they’re interested in a man:
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So (hetero) women have this uncanny trick when they’re interested in a man:
They’ll time it so that just as you look up, they’ve moved into your field of vision—making eye contact feel almost “accidental,” but anything but.
How they pull this off, I’ve never quite figured out. But the precision is uncanny. -
So (hetero) women have this uncanny trick when they’re interested in a man:
They’ll time it so that just as you look up, they’ve moved into your field of vision—making eye contact feel almost “accidental,” but anything but.
How they pull this off, I’ve never quite figured out. But the precision is uncanny.@atomicpoet ooh who are these women and where can I observe them?
I’m bi so when interested in a man, I purposely don’t do eye contact (ensuring only those interested will come to me after they observed me) but also eliminating those who cannot speak to approach!
I never chase men so this strategy has consistent worked on all previous partners (ex hubby included)
When interested in a woman (bi or les), i do friendly eye contact so they come to talk to me or vice versa!
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@atomicpoet ooh who are these women and where can I observe them?
I’m bi so when interested in a man, I purposely don’t do eye contact (ensuring only those interested will come to me after they observed me) but also eliminating those who cannot speak to approach!
I never chase men so this strategy has consistent worked on all previous partners (ex hubby included)
When interested in a woman (bi or les), i do friendly eye contact so they come to talk to me or vice versa!
@Crissy To be clear, I don’t find these women—they find me. And when they do their thing, I never talk to them. I don’t so much crack the door open because there’s no point in interaction.
Women can be very aggressive when their mind is set on something. They just tend to do it in a way that provides plausible deniability (e.g. “Funny that we keep bumping into each other.”)
I don’t know how it works for women who love women. But for hetero women the social cues are obvious when you know they exist.
For example, stare, look away, stare. Another is playing with the hair, twirling around their forefinger. Also, laughing when nothing is funny but they make it as though your sense of humour is amazing.
When a woman likes you, she typically tries to become the focus of your attention. You, specifically, may not work that way. But more often than not, women do. -
So (hetero) women have this uncanny trick when they’re interested in a man:
They’ll time it so that just as you look up, they’ve moved into your field of vision—making eye contact feel almost “accidental,” but anything but.
How they pull this off, I’ve never quite figured out. But the precision is uncanny.@atomicpoet disturbing generalization about women
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@atomicpoet disturbing generalization about women
@aardvark I don’t even want to know why you feel it’s disturbing when a woman makes eye contact with a man she’s interested in. -
@aardvark I don’t even want to know why you feel it’s disturbing when a woman makes eye contact with a man she’s interested in.
@atomicpoet @aardvark He wrote that what he finds disturbing is your generalisation, not then phenomenon you describe. I agree with him.
Personally, I (a het woman) don't have the social skills to do any interactions with "uncanny precision", I'm more of a blundering straightforward type. And I find it mildly concerning that you are saying that if I accidentally make eye contact with a man, he might think I am signalling romantic and/or sexual interest!
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@atomicpoet @aardvark He wrote that what he finds disturbing is your generalisation, not then phenomenon you describe. I agree with him.
Personally, I (a het woman) don't have the social skills to do any interactions with "uncanny precision", I'm more of a blundering straightforward type. And I find it mildly concerning that you are saying that if I accidentally make eye contact with a man, he might think I am signalling romantic and/or sexual interest!
@hildeaustlid Except, I never said that. Actually, I said the opposite—I literally wrote, “So no—it doesn’t mean every glance is a sexual invitation.” But for you to completely ignore that statement, and interpret it as the opposite, signals bad faith.
Read the studies I cited then engage with me afterwards.
