I have a rule where my family/friends only gets a single weekend day of my time.
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I have a rule where my family/friends only gets a single weekend day of my time. X wants Saturday, Y wants Sunday? Sorry, I can only do your things on one of those days; figure it out between you two. I’m not interrupting both. I reserve one of those days for me.
Keeping this boundary a constant struggle. Just because I am not doing anything, does not mean I am free, and if I am free, it does not mean that it’s free for you. I work full time and I’m alone, I need a day off where I just care for my own affairs and decompress. I don’t know why this is so hard to convey. -
I have a rule where my family/friends only gets a single weekend day of my time. X wants Saturday, Y wants Sunday? Sorry, I can only do your things on one of those days; figure it out between you two. I’m not interrupting both. I reserve one of those days for me.
Keeping this boundary a constant struggle. Just because I am not doing anything, does not mean I am free, and if I am free, it does not mean that it’s free for you. I work full time and I’m alone, I need a day off where I just care for my own affairs and decompress. I don’t know why this is so hard to convey.Also I get people who want my help - and complain that they’re not getting the help, when my answer is always “sure, I’ll help - but put it on the calendar” … which they never do.
I refuse to just drop whatever the fuck I am doing just because you decided TODAY IS THE DAY. you need to give me at least 24 hours notice. I’m also not just going to … drop by and do it. What’s with the magical thinking?
