Another proof of unfair universe is that the only way to change one's life is through opportunities to experience deltas in suffering, usually as in increase for a time to what we are already bearing.

This is why you often find people stuck in misery; they cannot bear to extend themselves beyond the point they are at if they have the opportunity, or they do not have the opportunity. Note 'opportunity'. This ain't bootstraps shit.

Just a thought for those considering new years resolutions. Increased suffering is the currency of change. Ironically a bit of self-loathing is something to be cultivated, so we have at least have a little motivation to cause ourselves this needed pain.