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Women experience guilt, shame and exclusion in gaming culture, study finds

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  • switcheroo@lemmy.worldS switcheroo@lemmy.world

    I’ve been playing a certain well known game for over a decade now. I’ve developed such skill at never specifying anything that could out my gender I could put it on a resume.

    It’s actually quite fun. Oh the stuff men talk about when they don’t know there’s a lass in their raid group lolol

    Now that I’m “old”, it ain’t about guilt, shame, or exclusion, it’s about how fun this facade is. Y’all neeeever know. So keep talking.

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    HubertManne
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    My first thought was why would anyone know. Granted I pretty much assume no one in the game is female. I know some are but I think my assumption will apply a large majority of the time. I mean I know my wife was on the game.

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    • R rumschlumpel@feddit.org

      Or just single player games in general. If Super Mario is fine (main “story” being that a princess gets abducted by a male villain and rescued by a man), there really aren’t that many games that are significantly worse.

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      petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      So, again, to participate in modern gaming, women should play only single-player games. Like, to avoid men?

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        • 6 6nk06@sh.itjust.works

          https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Super_Mario_Bros.

          Oh wow, I didn’t knew that Super Mario or Tetris on the NES was an “incredibly exclusionary space” because that’s not how I remember it.

          I’m glad you taught me that.

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          twiglet@feddit.uk
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          Being a girl trying to talk about video games with boys was generally horrible, it’s not just the multiplayer experience, the ‘you like games, then name every X ever!’ followed by bullying has been alive and well for over 30 years.

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          • slab_bulkhead@lemmy.worldS slab_bulkhead@lemmy.world

            Goood, I can feel your Gamer anger. Beneath the skin we are already one. Even now the evil seed of the Gamer germinates within you. strike me down and your journey to the dark side will be complete.

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            canconda@lemmy.ca
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            lmfaoooooo

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              jjjalljs@ttrpg.network
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              Many men are emotionally unable to accept things like this. I think the reasoning goes like

              • i’m a good person
              • i like my hobby
              • someone is saying bad things about my hobby
              • this makes me feel bad, so it must be false
              • furthermore, the person bringing it up is attacking me

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              Facts don’t matter. There’s really nothing you can do if you’re not someone they like.

              I also think about this comic a lot: https://www.giantitp.com/comics/oots1151.html - Some people are too cowardly to grow.

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              • J jjjalljs@ttrpg.network

                Many men are emotionally unable to accept things like this. I think the reasoning goes like

                • i’m a good person
                • i like my hobby
                • someone is saying bad things about my hobby
                • this makes me feel bad, so it must be false
                • furthermore, the person bringing it up is attacking me

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                Facts don’t matter. There’s really nothing you can do if you’re not someone they like.

                I also think about this comic a lot: https://www.giantitp.com/comics/oots1151.html - Some people are too cowardly to grow.

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                subarctic5128@lemmy.ca
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                I also think it may be just… sexism… I know people who behave like this towards women, but not other men…

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                • U underreacting@literature.cafe

                  It was the reason I started playing it.

                  It’s one of the first things I bring up when recommending it to other women who aren’t playing online multiplayer games usually.

                  Most women I know who play it don’t play any other multiplayer games online, at least none with VC.

                  Games with VC usually do have the option to turn it off, but doing so you’ll have less information than players who use it. You’ll be a detriment to your team if they would otherwise have had efficient comms. You are turning off a feature, where the game is built on the expectations that it is turned on. I’d rather not have that option at all and instead have everyone be on the same page, with no expectations of comms with strangers. One less thing to consider, say no to, to disappoint others with.

                  Nowadays I’d probably use VC if they had it, but I never would have started playing if they did, so I’m glad there are still games where it’s not even an option.

                  So I’d say for a fair percentage that absolutely is the reason. That, and the horror icons.

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                  warm
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                  #39

                  I see that and it certainly takes that initial worry out, but DBD isn’t that competitive, so there would be no pressure to talk really even if it did exist (different for each person I guess, how they feel about that). It’s a more chill game and the community in my experience is a lot more open-minded than your hyper-competitive games like CS where you find all the degenerates, I think that’s why its mostly more welcoming.

                  Text-chat has been way more toxic in my experience anyway. Usually they stop talking on the mic and start typing.

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                  • P petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone

                    So, again, to participate in modern gaming, women should play only single-player games. Like, to avoid men?

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                    rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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                    Multiplayer with randos is to be avoided in general IMO.

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                    • fizz@lemmy.nzF fizz@lemmy.nz

                      How the fuck are they getting shamed and excluded in mobile games?

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                      Captain Aggravated
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                      Self-inflicted wound.

                      She plays Candy Crush and feels that calling herself a “gamer” for it amounts to stolen valor.

                      Maybe she’s right, maybe she isn’t. I’m a woodworker, and I’d built several bookshelves, tables, shop fixtures and cutting boards before I felt comfortable wearing the rank. I would insist I was an amateur or a beginner. It was my little porch table that is made with genuine mortise and tenons that I felt I’d earned it.

                      And that’s without the gender politics of it. Here I’m a man doing traditionally masculine things. I’m not a man taking up knitting or a woman taking up gaming.

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                        Captain Aggravated
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                        “Researchers surveyed 1,000 women of all ages across the UK who play mobile games.”

                        Shows a picture of a woman holding what appears to be a PS4 controller.

                        Poifect.

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                          but_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world
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                          Do they resize this is the case for al gamers? No matter the gender

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                            i mean of course youre going to have a conclusion like that polling exclusively mobile game players. For example had they polled female MMO players (there are a lot), the results would likely be far different.

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                            paupersserenade@sh.itjust.works
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                            Eh, I’m one of those MMO ‘females’. I have to be really cautious when I first join a guild. I’m often seen as a ‘female’ first and gamer second. The amount of times I’ve gotten OnlyFans comments is way too high. I’ve had the best luck in multiplayer FPS games. The downfall of Bungie hits me hard because Destiny in particular was a great place to be a woman gamer. Can you do the mechanic and communicate? That’s all a good team wants.

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                            • 6 6nk06@sh.itjust.works

                              https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Super_Mario_Bros.

                              Oh wow, I didn’t knew that Super Mario or Tetris on the NES was an “incredibly exclusionary space” because that’s not how I remember it.

                              I’m glad you taught me that.

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                              inclementimmigrant@lemmy.world
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                              Well you win the most asinine comment I’ve read today.

                              Even I remember girls getting crapped on in the arcades.

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                                megaultrachicken@lemmy.world
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                                Yeah that’s definitely not going to be exclusive to mobile games, but I always feel like mobile games are generally more isolating to begin with.

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                                • G grte@lemmy.ca

                                  This is pretty clear to anyone who has ever played a game of Counterstrike or whatever and a woman makes the mistake of using voice chat. You’ll get the whole gamut from misogynistic nonsense to the most awkward and creepy attempts to hit on them possible, pretty much every time.

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                                  hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world
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                                  I don’t doubt this but now I’m really curious about the numbers. Is it the same on PC? How do women’s experience compare to other genders in similar surveys?

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                                  • paupersserenade@sh.itjust.worksP paupersserenade@sh.itjust.works

                                    Eh, I’m one of those MMO ‘females’. I have to be really cautious when I first join a guild. I’m often seen as a ‘female’ first and gamer second. The amount of times I’ve gotten OnlyFans comments is way too high. I’ve had the best luck in multiplayer FPS games. The downfall of Bungie hits me hard because Destiny in particular was a great place to be a woman gamer. Can you do the mechanic and communicate? That’s all a good team wants.

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                                    crashumbc@lemmy.world
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                                    Absolutely, in a guild with a female GM and we’ve collected a fair number of female gamers because of it. But we still end up kicking folks occasionally because they lose their shit when they hear a female on discord.

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                                    • G grte@lemmy.ca

                                      This is pretty clear to anyone who has ever played a game of Counterstrike or whatever and a woman makes the mistake of using voice chat. You’ll get the whole gamut from misogynistic nonsense to the most awkward and creepy attempts to hit on them possible, pretty much every time.

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                                      Photuris
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                                      I’m not into gaming, but my wife used to be into it. When we were dating, we’d play call of duty together (side-by-side consoles). She’d get on voice chat, get teased a bit by teenage boys, and then proceed to utterly destroy them. Sometimes they’d scream and curse, accuse her of cheating, accuse her of having a guy play for her (lol her man sucks at this), and so on. She’d just mock them, call them horrible names, and then specifically target and spawn camp the little shits until they rage quit.

                                      It was fucking awesome, and it was alway a laugh riot for the other (more mature, less sexist) folks in the match. I love her so much.

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                                        serenesadie@lemmy.myserv.one
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                                        Given where this is coming from, im waiting for the drop where they blame the tranas community for this. Somehow.

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                                        • C canconda@lemmy.ca

                                          Dr Seán Roberts, who researches gaming at Cardiff University, said: “When I ask people if they play video games, women often say no. But if you ask about playing games on a mobile, many of them will suddenly say yes. It’s like they have an idea of what a real gamer is in their heads, and they feel like they don’t meet that ideal.”

                                          TBF I don’t really consider myself a gamer anymore… even though I clock a few hours a week on the playstation. But like I used to play competitive FPS/MOBA/RTS 10+ hours a week.

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                                          fizz@lemmy.nz
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                                          So they aren’t actually getting excluded from games they just dont view themselves as gamers probaby because that label is cringe. I wouldn’t consider someone who casually plays mobile games to be a gamer either. Gamer isnt just anyone who play a games, it describes someone who embeds themselves in gaming communities and culture and engages gaming as a hobby. Same as going for a walk doesn’t make you a hiker.

                                          I play pc games often and wouldnt consider myself a gamer.

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