There is a frustratingly high percentage of posts on here of quite common experiences that are claimed as “autistic” experiences.

I concur, this is a problem specific to people who interrupt or talk over others, not the person being interrupted. A good way to test it is to just go out and talk to more people: it doesn’t happen outside of certain social circles.

And then the subject changed. And you didn’t follow and still don’t follow because you are still busy with the conversation simulator ik your head about what you wanted to say in the first place.

And when you catch up with reality the subject changed again and you are lost.

find a neurolospicy friend group. Immediately. Go to where you think you’ll will want to hang out, find a neurolospicy group, and force you way in. best thing I’ve ever done in my life.

This post was triggering, then made me happy that I don’t have to deal with that bullshit anymore. At least with the people I care about.

Don’t worry, that happens when the person you’re talking to never knows when to shut the hell up so other people can get a word in.

And you still want to say what you were going to say.

ADHD internet circles are lousy with this, too. “The [NUERODIVERGENT] URGE TO EAT FOOD AND BREATHE OXYGEN, ANYONE ELSE?”

Them: you’re so quiet, you must be shy.

Me: You’re not, you must have adhd.

Genuinely doesn’t help. At least IME, and I assume each group is different. It really just depends on the people and how self-absorbed they are. Neurospicy people can be just as rude and self-obsessed as neurotypicals

However, being on the receiving end of this -a ton- as well as the defeating glory that is starting to say something only to be interrupted and have your conversation partners just entirely stop listening to you, never to resume… being a recipient of that all too often has taught me to always pivot back to or focus on whomever was trying to say something, to let them get their damned thought out, not just trailing it off into the void.

Been there, done that, got called “egotistical” for it.

I work with people like this. They’re not interested in a conversation, only talking at you.

That’s when you say “jumping back a minute to subject X for a bit,” then say what you wanted to say. If it spurs further conversation on that subject, great. Otherwise you still leave an opportunity for the conversation to go back to where it had already gone.

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find a neurolospicy friend group. Immediately. Go to where you think you’ll will want to hang out, find a neurolospicy group, and force you way in. best thing I’ve ever done in my life.

It should be noted, this trick doesn’t work if the group is all extroverted ADHD-havers.

Angryhumanoid The autistic experience of being told the thing that happens to you and that feels especially bad or frustrating is normal, so STFU about it. As if finding shit everyone around you sees as normal insufferable isn’t part of the autistic experience.

Sometimes I just breach and keep talking hoping the other person stops.

The most awkward is when they don’t so when you finish your sentence, no one heard, but you also didn’t hear them and everyone is now doing that “concentrated on listening looking confused” face, but focusing on the other person. That’s when you know you fucked up.

@kichae@wanderingadventure.party the autistic experience of using a behavioral condition as an excuse to be an asshole. And to be clear I’m not saying you’re an asshole because you allegedly have autism, I’m saying you’re just a normal run of the mill asshole who wants to feel special about it.

That’s interesting, from a conversational analysis point of view there are literally little measurable breaks in all conversations where anyone can try to take the turn.

Does that mean you lot can’t hear them?

Or is it a matter of not having the timing to hit them, o maybe that other people (verbally)wrestle the turn from you?

Everyone in my engineering department is neurospicy and we keep having quick conversations where we interrupt each other. It’s glorious. It’s like when somebody knocks all the crap off the table to point at a heist map, only for a second and third person to do the same thing.

Ooh, I don’t know about that. Maybe if everyone’s on the same page. ND can’t help but interrupt, but really dislike being interrupted. I gotta finish my thought sometimes.