Wandering Adventure Party

@kimapr @sarae

wow, that’s interesting, thank you! I didn’t know that!

(Mastodon user here)

@sarae @GPJohnston @moss @awawawa

Sometimes e.g. in the actuallyAutistic group, people post kind of personal things, and even if they didn’t set it to followers only, I sometimes feel it should perhaps stay in the group. Then I just favour it, rather than boost.

Also, I have a pinned post about this very topic

@KatyElphinstone

In other words: I believe it’s not because all our differences have to be inherently difficult. They don’t punish us because theyre allistics.

Its because this culture has shaped affective priorities and thinking in a way that is deeply, deeply toxic. And we’re not automatically completely free from that just because of our different neurotype.

@KatyElphinstone

- emotional smoothing by whom?
- implicit trust in what?
- norm enforcement through what kind of vibe?

The hiding and staying at an „aloof“ distance that was interpreted as a characteristic of autistics is indeed a consequence of having been bitten not once, but over and over and over. Just like in that meme that says „I used to be a people person, but people ruined that for me“.

It’s punishment that does that.

Punishment for all the things you listed above, because they question hierarchy. They point out errors. And mistakes aren’t seen as necessary steps on the way, but as something that decreases your value, as bad, as something to be avoided because it weakens your status.

We live in a culture that’s based on competition rather than cooperation. And the ones on top are males. It’s about hierarchy all the way down, and most people strive to become more powerful rather than more respectful.

Our autistic out-of-the-box thinking is challenging. Those who are into hierarchy take any challenge as an attack, even personally, rather than an opportunity. They tend to interpret everything as an attack, even simple questions, because of their fear of failure, of losing status, and power.

So, the way I see it, you’re right and I agree with everything you said - but you don’t say the quiet part out loud:

- That emotional smoothing has a direction. It has to be done by those who have something to lose. By those afraid of escalation and punishment. Those further down in the hierarchy.

- those higher up want implicit trust in their authority, which is based on power. On status. Because if it were based on expertise, they’d actually encourage others to think for themselves and guide them through challenges so both sides have a chance to learn from them.

- and it’s norm enforcement through bribery for compliance on the pleasant side, and fear, intimidation and pain on the aversive side. Those are the basic control tools of patriarchy. This is why we see all that violence emerge once some power and hierarchy is challenged, rather than everyone take a step back and find a solution in a cooperative way that’s good for everyone. And we can see that in private as well as global scenarios. In ableism, racism, sexism… you name it.

@NiwlCraft

beautiful! I want to be there 🥰

Friends, there’s a post making the rounds with this AI generated image. Don’t fall for it.

I’m pointing it out because it’s going viral here. The person sharing it seems to enjoy all the criticism and attention they get from it going viral.

This is how it works on the big platforms: get people pissed. Make them give you clicks and higher ranking.

Don’t fall for it. It’s not how we want it to work here, is it. Block, and move on.

#rageBait #ICE #aislop