@futurebird Your point is CRITICAL. As an infosec pro I have worked with scam victims and similar and the shame is such a huge factor in negative outcomes.
It’s why there’s a very conscious, if partially successful, effort to relabel “pig butchering” as “romance baiting” (the original term comes from China).
Also, Dad has dementia and has gotten scammed a few times (ie fake tech support). He knows I won’t judge him if he comes to me.