@skinnylatte it's always been weird to me how much the generally Asian cultural value of politely ignoring when a stranger is being embarrassing, and this thing I've seen where people operate socially on both a ruthless level and a polite level simultaneously. (especially when it's women smoothly dealing with misogynistic men)
This gets read as "submissiveness" or docility or whatever by western people and like, ohhh it is noooot.