@redsad@ohai.social a lot better, thankfully. I smoke a lot of weed and it helps with ADHD and anxiety. perfectionism I've learned to replace with never ending disciplines. for example, I don't really like beating games, I just like the ones you can't beat like Minecraft and chess (you just keep improving). and music is going well, I'm not a perfectionist, I turned procrastination into endless proliferation, so I still struggle to work on songs for more than one session; I'm learning to not do that :3

@redsad@ohai.social it gets a LOT better by 25. like, a LOT better. also, quitting big tech helps, and strengthening your focus (for me, by reading a lot and doing math) esp in your early 20s helps.

@redsad I didn’t know I was the oldest daughter at the time…

captain acab :antifa: I’m the only daughter and the only son so I guess that counts nods

@mxsparks @redsad Oh, shit... I did become the oldest daughter, didn't I?

@butchrobot hmmm I'm 42 and that's definitely not the case for me

@redsad damn I did not need to be called out like this today

@redsad

Hey. Not only do my youngest child make that program, but now her oldest child has made it. Two children, 4 grandchildren, not one neuro-normative in the crowd.
But everyone gets student of the month, and 1st in the article contests, and like that.
It's just that they are light on the 401K paths.

@redsad Yeah, in the 80's but geez. Ow.

@NicolaElle @mxsparks @redsad Yeah, I became the oldest daughter, too.

@redsad Hmm. No ADHD, but anxiety, depression, and perfectionism for sure. But Wellbutrin is helping the procrastination for writing, at least.

Am the oldest daughter (but have an older brother so actually a middle child) and ... my spiritual journey is stalled somewhere.

Though I think technically my GT program was in the 80s, so maybe that's the difference.

@redsad RUDE

@redsad@ohai.social Youngest Daughter and the 2000s, but it very much still applies. Also I'm starting to get to a point where I'm getting better at my perfectionism!

@redsad @purplepadma it me, 100%

(Except for the Oldest Daughter part)

@redsad I'm in this picture and I don't like it

@redsad that's my eldest daughter.

"Perfectionist Based Procrastination"? Wow, it has a name?

@redsad Ouch.

@redsad I was in it in like... 2023? The name was Talented and Gifted instead of the other way around so it might be a different thing, but I remember everybody there being super pretentious and rude! I had a tendency to remember the new stuff enough to get good grades, but really old stuff would be gone. I was called many names, and I remember getting in trouble for quitting without actually quitting because I didn't wanna talk to the teacher

@krutonium @redsad good girl for saying so