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  • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

    Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

    Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

    ಚಿರಾಗ್ 🌹✊🏾Ⓥ🌱🇵🇸 (he/him)C This user is from outside of this forum
    ಚಿರಾಗ್ 🌹✊🏾Ⓥ🌱🇵🇸 (he/him)C This user is from outside of this forum
    ಚಿರಾಗ್ 🌹✊🏾Ⓥ🌱🇵🇸 (he/him)
    wrote on last edited by
    #84

    @vkc Goddammit. Men suck (as a man).

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    • AprazethA Aprazeth

      @moondog548 @alice @vkc

      There are differing styles of communication and personalities to take into account, so don't necessarily use these as-is. Adapt to your situation/style/personality

      Some examples to get started (for the edgy remark retorts)

      - Not cool dude
      - that's fucked up
      - ask them to explain what they meant, make them explain their "edgy" stuff

      But above all, be the better example. Support women, POC, LGBTQ, and *believe them* when they call out stuff

      AprazethA This user is from outside of this forum
      AprazethA This user is from outside of this forum
      Aprazeth
      wrote on last edited by
      #85

      @moondog548 @alice @vkc

      And keep in mind: some men will just be monsters. No amount of social pressure or calling out will work on them as they keep making those remarks

      In those instances - ostracize them from your life, and warn others. Do not accept them as "quirky but harmless". Because it will escalate, and will draw in others. That will prompt "but he says it, and it's accepted so I should be able to say it as well"

      > Silence now is implied endorsement later.

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      • moondog548M moondog548

        @Aprazeth
        This is a huge opportunity. We need to learn *and teach eachother* how to call our brothers in when they're out of line.

        We need to know what to do and make it a reflex!
        @alice @vkc

        AprazethA This user is from outside of this forum
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        Aprazeth
        wrote on last edited by
        #86

        @moondog548 @alice @vkc

        There are differing styles of communication and personalities to take into account, so don't necessarily use these as-is. Adapt to your situation/style/personality

        Some examples to get started (for the edgy remark retorts)

        - Not cool dude
        - that's fucked up
        - ask them to explain what they meant, make them explain their "edgy" stuff

        But above all, be the better example. Support women, POC, LGBTQ, and *believe them* when they call out stuff

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        • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

          Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

          Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

          JeffP This user is from outside of this forum
          JeffP This user is from outside of this forum
          Jeff
          wrote on last edited by
          #87

          @vkc I’m very sorry to hear this. Just this morning I watched your videos on installing Linux on Chromebooks and comparing standard Mint to Debian Mint (loved the visual REM reference, btw). And a few days ago your video about installing Linux on M1 Macs inspired me to do just that.

          You’re doing great work, and I really appreciate you being on PeerTube. Thanks much!

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          • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

            Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

            Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

            LΞX/NØVΛ 🇪🇺L This user is from outside of this forum
            LΞX/NØVΛ 🇪🇺L This user is from outside of this forum
            LΞX/NØVΛ 🇪🇺
            wrote on last edited by
            #88

            @vkc had some best way not engage ignore block report.

            if you engage, you already lost.

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            • Matthew LoxtonM Matthew Loxton

              @RegGuy
              At risk of flooding out Veronica's voice here (a real risk and also sexism), yeah, the overt "hey you b*tch" stuff is easy to spot.
              More difficult is the coded stuff. Using innocent words to highlight "feminine" vs "masculine" aspects
              Even more difficult is noticing undue focus, undue exclusion, and seemingly automatic assumptions that a woman should be more caring or gentle, or be the default peacemaker, etc.

              It takes a lot of work, persistence, and attention

              @bob @vkc

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              JustBobB This user is from outside of this forum
              JustBob
              wrote on last edited by
              #89

              @mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

              I do a lot of coding for the MPAQ network. Sitting here working on other things and wondering if i could build a database/site to collect names@instances that someone sends...

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              • JustBobB JustBob

                @mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

                I do a lot of coding for the MPAQ network. Sitting here working on other things and wondering if i could build a database/site to collect names@instances that someone sends...

                Matthew LoxtonM This user is from outside of this forum
                Matthew LoxtonM This user is from outside of this forum
                Matthew Loxton
                wrote on last edited by
                #90

                @bob
                There is something like that afaik
                Not sure if it wound up as an app, but women were circulating a blocklist of known gremlins

                @RegGuy @vkc

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                • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                  Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                  Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                  Aurora 🐌C This user is from outside of this forum
                  Aurora 🐌C This user is from outside of this forum
                  Aurora 🐌
                  wrote on last edited by
                  #91

                  @vkc

                  I just can send you hugs, and apple pies.

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                  • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                    Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                    Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                    criley :manjaro:V This user is from outside of this forum
                    criley :manjaro:V This user is from outside of this forum
                    criley :manjaro:
                    wrote on last edited by
                    #92

                    @vkc Real men understand what consent means. Real men don't treat women like garbage. Real men fight that shit.

                    Be a real man, not garbage who make women uncomfortable to be who they are.

                    #FightThatShit

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                    • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                      Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                      Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                      Zark Muckerburg6 This user is from outside of this forum
                      Zark Muckerburg6 This user is from outside of this forum
                      Zark Muckerburg
                      wrote on last edited by
                      #93

                      @vkc for anyone openly harassing someone on the Fediverse please leave and never come back.

                      Sorry to hear what you are dealing with

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                      • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                        europlus :autisminf:E This user is from outside of this forum
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                        europlus :autisminf:
                        wrote on last edited by
                        #94

                        @vkc I’m sorry the grubs are still around 😞

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                        • AlexA Alex

                          @vkc no it is not and quite frankly your response is quite obnoxious. If we can't talk about problems collectively on this shithole platform and only talk about one thing at a time than it becomes loose islands among the rest of the sewage, but fine whatever. Thank you for proving my point about how hostile this place is becoming with all you morons whining, but yet do this type of shit. Anyways, enjoy the block. I generally don't care.

                          Zark Muckerburg6 This user is from outside of this forum
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                          Zark Muckerburg
                          wrote on last edited by
                          #95

                          @alex02 @vkc go to Twitter go to Bluesky. She’s not asking for argument.

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                          • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                            Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                            Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

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                            Claudia
                            wrote on last edited by
                            #96

                            @vkc I’m sorry for what you went through. Hope you’re doing ok.

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                            • Matthew LoxtonM Matthew Loxton

                              @bob
                              There is something like that afaik
                              Not sure if it wound up as an app, but women were circulating a blocklist of known gremlins

                              @RegGuy @vkc

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                              JustBob
                              wrote on last edited by
                              #97

                              @mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

                              Been searching but no luck finding a site that would let someone "report a bad user"...

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                              • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                JacobRPGJ This user is from outside of this forum
                                JacobRPGJ This user is from outside of this forum
                                JacobRPG
                                wrote on last edited by
                                #98

                                @vkc
                                Gods dang it, fedi. Be better.

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                                • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                  Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                  Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                  Travis F WT This user is from outside of this forum
                                  Travis F WT This user is from outside of this forum
                                  Travis F W
                                  wrote on last edited by
                                  #99

                                  @vkc okay, how to take responsibility for fedi culture. Hmm. Sure can look for it and push back, if I happen to see it at the right time, but that seems minimal.
                                  I wonder if anyone has tried setting up a honeypot for sexual harassment?

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                                  • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                    Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                    Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                    The WookieN This user is from outside of this forum
                                    The WookieN This user is from outside of this forum
                                    The Wookie
                                    wrote on last edited by
                                    #100

                                    @vkc

                                    Sorry this happen to you. There are fighters out there but it's a tough fight and big Fediverse.

                                    Fedi needs a hashtag that is a call to action to fight harassment and bigotry. Blocking or muting isn't enough. There should be a way to call in the Calvary to defend those being attacked.

                                    Simply reply with #StompTheBully (or something) and the good guys show up to shut things down. Summon the guard dogs and we'll show up. As 6'5" father of a mess of daughters nothing makes me happier when my crew needs me for some "Big Dog Energy".

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                                    • moondog548M moondog548

                                      @haltroy
                                      And just like any disease we'll keep fighting it.
                                      @Orb2069 @vkc

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                                      Orb 2069
                                      wrote on last edited by
                                      #101

                                      @moondog548
                                      This is the way.

                                      @haltroy @vkc

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                                      • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                        DcgirlD This user is from outside of this forum
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                                        Dcgirl
                                        wrote on last edited by
                                        #102

                                        @vkc people want women on the fediverse? That’s news to me.

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                                        • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                          Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                          Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                          ChookMother 🇦🇺🦘A This user is from outside of this forum
                                          ChookMother 🇦🇺🦘A This user is from outside of this forum
                                          ChookMother 🇦🇺🦘
                                          wrote on last edited by
                                          #103

                                          @vkc Yeah it's amazing how, when you talk about arsehole behaviour on social media, arseholes arrive to demonstrate exactly what you were talking about.

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