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  • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

    Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

    Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

    JacobRPGJ This user is from outside of this forum
    JacobRPGJ This user is from outside of this forum
    JacobRPG
    wrote on last edited by
    #98

    @vkc
    Gods dang it, fedi. Be better.

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    • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

      Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

      Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

      Travis F WT This user is from outside of this forum
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      Travis F W
      wrote on last edited by
      #99

      @vkc okay, how to take responsibility for fedi culture. Hmm. Sure can look for it and push back, if I happen to see it at the right time, but that seems minimal.
      I wonder if anyone has tried setting up a honeypot for sexual harassment?

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      • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

        The WookieN This user is from outside of this forum
        The WookieN This user is from outside of this forum
        The Wookie
        wrote on last edited by
        #100

        @vkc

        Sorry this happen to you. There are fighters out there but it's a tough fight and big Fediverse.

        Fedi needs a hashtag that is a call to action to fight harassment and bigotry. Blocking or muting isn't enough. There should be a way to call in the Calvary to defend those being attacked.

        Simply reply with #StompTheBully (or something) and the good guys show up to shut things down. Summon the guard dogs and we'll show up. As 6'5" father of a mess of daughters nothing makes me happier when my crew needs me for some "Big Dog Energy".

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        • moondog548M moondog548

          @haltroy
          And just like any disease we'll keep fighting it.
          @Orb2069 @vkc

          Orb 2069O This user is from outside of this forum
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          Orb 2069
          wrote on last edited by
          #101

          @moondog548
          This is the way.

          @haltroy @vkc

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          • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

            Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

            Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

            DcgirlD This user is from outside of this forum
            DcgirlD This user is from outside of this forum
            Dcgirl
            wrote on last edited by
            #102

            @vkc people want women on the fediverse? That’s news to me.

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            • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

              Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

              Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

              ChookMother 🇦🇺🦘A This user is from outside of this forum
              ChookMother 🇦🇺🦘A This user is from outside of this forum
              ChookMother 🇦🇺🦘
              wrote on last edited by
              #103

              @vkc Yeah it's amazing how, when you talk about arsehole behaviour on social media, arseholes arrive to demonstrate exactly what you were talking about.

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              • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                BredrollB This user is from outside of this forum
                BredrollB This user is from outside of this forum
                Bredroll
                wrote on last edited by
                #104

                @vkc holy shit, why do assholes feel the need to come out of the swamp! so sorry you (and everyone else) have had to undure that kind of crap 😞

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                • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                  Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                  Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                  a fresh pup of coffee :bowie:D This user is from outside of this forum
                  a fresh pup of coffee :bowie:D This user is from outside of this forum
                  a fresh pup of coffee :bowie:
                  wrote on last edited by
                  #105

                  @vkc using the negative comments that you have gotten to add some suspends on our instance. You are better to have here than all of them combined, easily.

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                  • Cobweb, Looking for WorkC Cobweb, Looking for Work

                    @vkc @eq there’s a sample from a Consolidated song that’s lives rent free in my head since the late 90s and it goes “It’s men who need to inform other men about what … SHIT women go through”

                    Alex PsmithA This user is from outside of this forum
                    Alex PsmithA This user is from outside of this forum
                    Alex Psmith
                    wrote on last edited by
                    #106

                    @cobweb @vkc @eq Oh, they know. They support the shit, that's the problem.

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                    • The CyberwitchC The Cyberwitch

                      @vkc with all the bragging about how fedi is built so it can defederate and cut out unmoderated instances, maybe they should try it sometime.

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                      🎄🏳️‍🌈🎃🇧🇷Luana🇧🇷🎃🏳️‍🌈🎄
                      wrote on last edited by
                      #107

                      @cyberwitch @vkc that’s exactly what instance moderators do, all the time.

                      But if you self-host an instance (like Veronica does) that’s on you, you’re choosing to be your only moderator so you have to moderate. Moderating sucks, and that’s not exclusive to the fediverse at all. If you don’t want to deal with that, you can always go to an instance hosted by someone else who deals with this. There is literally nothing other people can do to defederate people from someone else’s instance (there are blocklists I think tho?).

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                      • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                        Julia :v_bi:J This user is from outside of this forum
                        Julia :v_bi:J This user is from outside of this forum
                        Julia :v_bi:
                        wrote on last edited by
                        #108

                        @vkc@linuxmom.net this is the reason I haven't spoken out about the NUMEROUS times it's affected me

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                        • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                          @eq "don't let the idiots get you" - do you see how that puts it on me?

                          I trust you mean well, but respectfully: no. The correct response is "men should fight back when they see this amongst themselves."

                          It isn't my responsibility to "not let them get me down." It's men who need to step up and fight this battle.

                          NumerfoltN This user is from outside of this forum
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                          Numerfolt
                          wrote on last edited by
                          #109

                          @vkc @eq Aye

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                          • AlexA Alex

                            @vkc no it is not and quite frankly your response is quite obnoxious. If we can't talk about problems collectively on this shithole platform and only talk about one thing at a time than it becomes loose islands among the rest of the sewage, but fine whatever. Thank you for proving my point about how hostile this place is becoming with all you morons whining, but yet do this type of shit. Anyways, enjoy the block. I generally don't care.

                            Alex PsmithA This user is from outside of this forum
                            Alex PsmithA This user is from outside of this forum
                            Alex Psmith
                            wrote on last edited by
                            #110

                            @alex02 @vkc You are here at her sufferance, not because you have the right to say whatever the fuck you want- on a post about sexual harassment, no less. What an entitled prick.

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                            • AlexA Alex

                              @vkc no it is not and quite frankly your response is quite obnoxious. If we can't talk about problems collectively on this shithole platform and only talk about one thing at a time than it becomes loose islands among the rest of the sewage, but fine whatever. Thank you for proving my point about how hostile this place is becoming with all you morons whining, but yet do this type of shit. Anyways, enjoy the block. I generally don't care.

                              Daniel BarberD This user is from outside of this forum
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                              Daniel Barber
                              wrote on last edited by
                              #111
                              @alex02 There was nothing obnoxious or hostile about Veronica’s response to you. You did hijack the thread and make it about yourself. Don’t do that. @vkc
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                              • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                eskeE This user is from outside of this forum
                                eskeE This user is from outside of this forum
                                eske
                                wrote on last edited by
                                #112

                                @vkc I'll fight sexual harassment anyday.

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                                • Matthew LoxtonM Matthew Loxton

                                  @RegGuy

                                  I hear you, and the same situation exists wrt racism. People of color say they get a ton of racist interactions, but I don't see it, so don't respond.

                                  I think three things are going on:
                                  1. There are things that *I* don't perceive as racist/sexist, but are experienced as such by the target. That bc the perpetrator is modulating to escape detection
                                  2. There are things that I haven't realized are racist and sexist, and I need to educate myself
                                  3. I am not in those environments
                                  @bob @vkc

                                  Sriram "sri" Ramkrishna -  😼S This user is from outside of this forum
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                                  Sriram "sri" Ramkrishna - 😼
                                  wrote on last edited by
                                  #113

                                  @mloxton @RegGuy @bob @vkc which is why you believe women / PoC when they point it out.

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                                  • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                    Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                    Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                    MinaM This user is from outside of this forum
                                    MinaM This user is from outside of this forum
                                    Mina
                                    wrote on last edited by
                                    #114

                                    @vkc

                                    So sorry, you had to go through this!

                                    Just because we're in "the good place", we shouldn't assume that misogyny, racism and other ugly stuff doesn't find its way here.

                                    It definitely exists, and it often hides behind false solidarity ("They're a good one, look at all the good they wrote and did. You misunderstood and are just overreacting.")

                                    Awareness is the first step.

                                    Abuse has to fought everywhere!

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                                    • Sriram "sri" Ramkrishna -  😼S Sriram "sri" Ramkrishna - 😼

                                      @mloxton @RegGuy @bob @vkc which is why you believe women / PoC when they point it out.

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                                      JustBob
                                      wrote on last edited by
                                      #115

                                      @sri @mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

                                      At the same time. Ive met people whl felt they were wronged...

                                      Not saying id not believe them but keeping that in mind...

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                                      • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                        Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                        Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                        Lydia SchochL This user is from outside of this forum
                                        Lydia SchochL This user is from outside of this forum
                                        Lydia Schoch
                                        wrote on last edited by
                                        #116

                                        @vkc This is such a frustratingly common experience. I’m sorry it happened to you.

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                                        • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                                          Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

                                          Y'all want women on Fedi? Fight that shit. I can't do it for you.

                                          iamsI This user is from outside of this forum
                                          iamsI This user is from outside of this forum
                                          iams
                                          wrote on last edited by
                                          #117

                                          @vkc I am sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing this experience (when I was young many women stayed silent -- I couldn't back them up when I didn't know what was going on and it weighs on me). I come to fedi/masto to get away from the bullshit, and I'm so sorry to know it is here too. I do my part to call out abuse when I see/hear it around me. I just want to say being dragged into a fight for existing is fucking awful, and you're not alone in being pissed-off. Fuck those assholes.

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