I feel like a lot of the unkindness and meanness is manufactured on purpose to divide us, I don’t think real people are actually that way all the time like they are on reddit, genuine kindness is rare, it wasn’t always like that at all, Reddit used to be exactly like here.

That makes sense. Also remember you never have to put yourself in any “box”, just because people find it “more convenient”. If your feelings change from person to person, or from day to day, then that’s more than okay. No 2 people should live their lives completely the same way. You evolve, and learn to enjoy new things in the future. Don’t stress it as much, just do what feels right for you!

I left reddit after the reddit blackout happened. Permanently. I didn’t purge my old posts but… I’m gone and not returning until the blind community forgives them. (API changes, lots of non seeing moderators lost their ability to interact with the site. There was a blackout in protest and reddit used it for routine maintenance)

I’ve certainly had negative interactions on Lemmy and elsewhere.

With reddit… I’m not blaming you, but communities are how they are. Different subreddits are different.

If you’re posting in /r/autism and experiencing that, then I’d perhaps suspect the issue might be more on your end - how you’re presenting yourself. That said, there are a lot of toxic places on reddit, for sure.

I’m essentially no longer on reddit, but I was there since 2009. I still say things that get downvotes. Mostly silly jokes that whoosh over peoples’ heads, but sometimes just randomly. It might be my fault some of the time, but it’s definitely just the way it goes. Sometimes I make a comment and expect downvotes but get upvotes; and sometimes expect upvotes and get downvotes.

Also, “reddit” doesn’t tell anyone anything. Users on the site certainly do. They’re individuals deciding what to say, just like here - I am not Lemmy telling you any of this, I’m me. And if I was on reddit talking to you, I’d still be me.

That said, before I almost-completely withdrew from participating in reddit, I browsed /r/all on old.reddit using RES to filter out so so very many toxic subs (and subs I wasn’t interested in).

There’s plenty of neurospicy people on reddit (I was / limited-still-am one).

Thanks. I mean, I was on LesbianActually and AITAH, subs like that. And I’m poly and they were all like “YTA for having another partner…” (I said I was poly) “…and cheating on your fiancée”

the van is in the river

I hate to post about Reddit on a non-Reddit platform, but come on! Reddit is super overrated, like they delete and downvote every post and comment I make whereas no one does that here. One time, they told my friend who happens to be autistic, LGBT, and a fictionkin that she “might as well just kill herself”, though that got removed, thankfully, and they call me stupid and delete my post and talk about what a stupid question it is that no one can answer when I, who is autistic, ask a question on why someone acts a certain way or why society has to be a certain way. I’M AUTISTIC. I DON’T GET QUESTIONS THAT COME NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE AND I ASK QUESTIONS THAT NO ONE THINKS OF. MY BRAIN WORKS DIFFERENTLY, MR. REDDITOR!!!

I’m poly, and poly acceptance on reddit is very very low in most places. It’s funny how that works. Homophobes are all “teh gay agenda, trying 2 convert us” and LGBTA+ is like “no, fuck off, we just want to live, thanks”. Poly feels the same way - I mention poly and people push back that it’s wrong, cheating, doesn’t work. Yeah, well, it doesn’t work for you if you’re not poly in the same way if you are straight, you don’t want to fuck your own gender.

I don’t know LesbianActually because I don’t hang out there for obvious reasons. AITAH doesn’t completely surprise me, it’s a mainstream sub. Lesbians are probably only marginally shunned, but poly? Shunned, I’m sure.

So basically, while I’m not blaming you… you didn’t know your audience was all. Probably better to seek advise in lesbian/poly friendly spaces. Again, don’t know lesbianactually, but I would expect r/lgbt to be a little more accepting, and perhaps /r/polyamory - I think that’s the subreddit, I don’t hang out there. (In part because while I am poly, I don’t practice currently and only ever did for a short period of time, so I hate reading about others’ happiness lol)

I’ve no clue what your submission was about, but I see enough pieces here to not be surprised it didn’t go well. I again don’t blame you. I think there’s spaces on lemmy where it also wouldn’t go well. Poly is a fringe thing to be and acceptance is somewhat low, which I think is a shame because I think if more people realized they were poly, the world would be a happier place as there’d be rather less cheating.

I’m sorry you got banged up over there.

I hate to post about Reddit on a non-Reddit platform, but come on! Reddit is super overrated, like they delete and downvote every post and comment I make whereas no one does that here. One time, they told my friend who happens to be autistic, LGBT, and a fictionkin that she “might as well just kill herself”, though that got removed, thankfully, and they call me stupid and delete my post and talk about what a stupid question it is that no one can answer when I, who is autistic, ask a question on why someone acts a certain way or why society has to be a certain way. I’M AUTISTIC. I DON’T GET QUESTIONS THAT COME NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE AND I ASK QUESTIONS THAT NO ONE THINKS OF. MY BRAIN WORKS DIFFERENTLY, MR. REDDITOR!!!

I hate to post about Reddit on a non-Reddit platform, but come on! Reddit is super overrated, like they delete and downvote every post and comment I make whereas no one does that here. One time, they told my friend who happens to be autistic, LGBT, and a fictionkin that she “might as well just kill herself”, though that got removed, thankfully, and they call me stupid and delete my post and talk about what a stupid question it is that no one can answer when I, who is autistic, ask a question on why someone acts a certain way or why society has to be a certain way. I’M AUTISTIC. I DON’T GET QUESTIONS THAT COME NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE AND I ASK QUESTIONS THAT NO ONE THINKS OF. MY BRAIN WORKS DIFFERENTLY, MR. REDDITOR!!!

I hate to post about Reddit on a non-Reddit platform, but come on! Reddit is super overrated, like they delete and downvote every post and comment I make whereas no one does that here. One time, they told my friend who happens to be autistic, LGBT, and a fictionkin that she “might as well just kill herself”, though that got removed, thankfully, and they call me stupid and delete my post and talk about what a stupid question it is that no one can answer when I, who is autistic, ask a question on why someone acts a certain way or why society has to be a certain way. I’M AUTISTIC. I DON’T GET QUESTIONS THAT COME NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE AND I ASK QUESTIONS THAT NO ONE THINKS OF. MY BRAIN WORKS DIFFERENTLY, MR. REDDITOR!!!

The van is the river

I hate to post about Reddit on a non-Reddit platform, but come on! Reddit is super overrated, like they delete and downvote every post and comment I make whereas no one does that here. One time, they told my friend who happens to be autistic, LGBT, and a fictionkin that she “might as well just kill herself”, though that got removed, thankfully, and they call me stupid and delete my post and talk about what a stupid question it is that no one can answer when I, who is autistic, ask a question on why someone acts a certain way or why society has to be a certain way. I’M AUTISTIC. I DON’T GET QUESTIONS THAT COME NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE AND I ASK QUESTIONS THAT NO ONE THINKS OF. MY BRAIN WORKS DIFFERENTLY, MR. REDDITOR!!!

Whoof, yikes, yeah.

Reddit is just chock full of random harassment.

We’ve gotten some here too but it’s not anywhere NEAR as bad. Here we feel relatively safe using ‘we’ and signing our messages. We’ve mostly stopped using ‘we’ on reddit and I get the occasional mocking comments about signing my name.

– Frost

It is, for sure. I’m so sorry you’ve gotten so negative messages. By the way, do you maybe happen to plural?? I am too! So far, we have one other known headmate, he’s Mark! His English is not the best, though, we are natively Spanish.

I hate to post about Reddit on a non-Reddit platform, but come on! Reddit is super overrated, like they delete and downvote every post and comment I make whereas no one does that here. One time, they told my friend who happens to be autistic, LGBT, and a fictionkin that she “might as well just kill herself”, though that got removed, thankfully, and they call me stupid and delete my post and talk about what a stupid question it is that no one can answer when I, who is autistic, ask a question on why someone acts a certain way or why society has to be a certain way. I’M AUTISTIC. I DON’T GET QUESTIONS THAT COME NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE AND I ASK QUESTIONS THAT NO ONE THINKS OF. MY BRAIN WORKS DIFFERENTLY, MR. REDDITOR!!!

I hate to post about Reddit on a non-Reddit platform, but come on! Reddit is super overrated, like they delete and downvote every post and comment I make whereas no one does that here. One time, they told my friend who happens to be autistic, LGBT, and a fictionkin that she “might as well just kill herself”, though that got removed, thankfully, and they call me stupid and delete my post and talk about what a stupid question it is that no one can answer when I, who is autistic, ask a question on why someone acts a certain way or why society has to be a certain way. I’M AUTISTIC. I DON’T GET QUESTIONS THAT COME NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE AND I ASK QUESTIONS THAT NO ONE THINKS OF. MY BRAIN WORKS DIFFERENTLY, MR. REDDITOR!!!

Yea Lemmy isn’t much better.

You sure said it. Society in general isn’t too friendly to disabled individuals

It’s obvious that Reddit hates disabled people since they killed alt front-ends for the blind community a while back.