I no longer plan days. I plan small moments, events, conversations, and I plan reactions for when my plans go wrong (things like incompatible and alternative behaviors). I often find myself imitating characters and people I’ve admired who have great social skills and compassion. Breaking my day up into calendar events has helped tremendously. It feels silly, but planning for plans to break was so painful at first, now it’s just something I laugh over as I rewrite my calendar for the third time in a day.

My girlfriend: Want to come over today?

Me: Sorry, I already mentally planned this to be a “me day.” I haven’t got the energy to do much, so I’m not going anywhere or doing anything.

She understands, we’re both on the spectrum. I like to plan ahead for things, so spur-of-the-moment socialization, even for people I like, is hard to do. I naturally want to apologize and sometimes feel guilty for rejecting invites, but she reminds me that there’s nothing wrong with planning or having “me time.” We usually make plans for the following day when this happens, as when I wake up with a plan already in place, it becomes so much easier to follow through. It’s the spontaneity that’s the most difficult thing.

Wet socks is a “I don’t care what is happening, I want to go home now” condition for me.

Sounds like a keeper

usually my plan is making a plan and forgetting to do it

Scarily relatable

This image is 80% of my personality.

But also, when did every single PNG on the internet become a “meme”? Feels like I’ve been seeing this a lot, lately.

A meme is just a thought that can be transferred and propagate within a population. It’s the thought-equivalent of a gene.

Probably one of the only useful things that Richard Dawkins contributed to society.

i think a lot about the usage of “memes” in MGR:Revengence which seems purely comedic in the current vernacular but if you try to remember the original definition it starts to just make sense instead.

ETA: added context via link

i realize now this is part of why i gave up on seeing doctors.

ADHD is spending hours sitting at my desk all weekend, barely able to wring out an intro sentence for my Final paper, and then finally getting the motivation and drive to put words on (digital) paper a few hours before it’s due.

…Probably—I’m lacking in diagnosis.

I can’t believe that I haven’t seen the “We are all pawns controlled by something greater” meme before.

My friends insist this is just humans, everyone does this, I’m not unique. Bummer.

Not me. I have plans on top of plans. I’m ready for anything. Except just being able to live my life without stressing tf out over everything.

mirshafie@europe.pub Yes, and… is this propagating anywhere in any meaningful way?

bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works You and your friends might want to explore the idea of social gravity in neurodivergence.

When this happens enough, you don’t get acclimated to it, you just get burnout.

“This was the plan all along!” He lied to himself as he did something completely unplanned.

Related to the “meme” subject, it irks when a post is just “picture of a sign, possibly being held by someone” or “something written on a piece of paper then photographed”. Just post the fucking text.

I just call them Mondays and accept it now, but I’m old. I’m sure others have better luck with their planned dates but if not, just put them on a Monday then you can be like Garfield and hate them too.

Yeah it happens still regardless. Least I still enjoy lasagna.