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  • Deer Witch NyxM Deer Witch Nyx

    @sarae @awawawa yes! I sometimes read as +support +love +you’re seen

    in disability communities I feel especially it never vibes “they LIKE that I’m having a brutal week,” it’s “they saw I’m having a brutal week & sent me a boop to know I’m not alone”

    I think it’s v weird when I see discourse and ppl are adamant it only means “I like this”. Have your friends not been suffering & do you not boop support?

    Greg JohnstonG This user is from outside of this forum
    Greg JohnstonG This user is from outside of this forum
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    #13

    @moss @sarae @awawawa Agree. If someone posts that they’re having a hard time, often I might not fully understand why or how and worry about commenting delicately. So I favorite the post to be supportive, to acknowledge their discomfort .

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    • SaraS Sara

      seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

      folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

      it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

      ShnoofleBear /ʃnuːfɛlbɛːr/S This user is from outside of this forum
      ShnoofleBear /ʃnuːfɛlbɛːr/S This user is from outside of this forum
      ShnoofleBear /ʃnuːfɛlbɛːr/
      wrote last edited by
      #14

      @sarae Sounds like the old "gaming the algorithm" mind set. Luckily, on Mastodon, things that are worth spreading, are spread, whether you fav it, or not.

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      • SaraS Sara

        seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

        folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

        it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

        Lee from ColoradoC This user is from outside of this forum
        Lee from ColoradoC This user is from outside of this forum
        Lee from Colorado
        wrote last edited by
        #15

        @sarae total agreement.

        maximizing-reach culture is toxic. It's a very good thing to leave behind here in the fediverse.

        Being kind and recognizing each other is good. And it's the kind of lovely action we should be encouraging...

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        • RosyL Rosy

          @sarae oh no, not this nonsense again... I remember last time they were saying, "never fav or boost, only leave comments!" as if there aren't enough reply guys already!

          actual discussion is good of course, but commenting for the sake of commenting... why?

          SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
          SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
          Sara
          wrote last edited by
          #16

          @lalah that really confused me as well

          commenting doesn't increase post visibility in this system, and yeah...unless I have something to say I should keep my mouth shut

          hell a lot of the time when I have something to say I should DEFINITELY keep my mouth shut, lol

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          • SaraS Sara

            seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

            folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

            it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

            schratzeS This user is from outside of this forum
            schratzeS This user is from outside of this forum
            schratze
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            #17

            @sarae literally who says this

            I've never seen anyone make this recommendation

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            • Greg JohnstonG Greg Johnston

              @sarae I’ve not seen the nega-fav posts, what they got against favoriting?

              SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
              SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
              Sara
              wrote last edited by
              #18

              @GPJohnston it doesn't feed an algo so that's a problem, I guess? idk it's a mindset that doesn't fit well with how I use the system

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              • Deer Witch NyxM Deer Witch Nyx

                @sarae @awawawa yes! I sometimes read as +support +love +you’re seen

                in disability communities I feel especially it never vibes “they LIKE that I’m having a brutal week,” it’s “they saw I’m having a brutal week & sent me a boop to know I’m not alone”

                I think it’s v weird when I see discourse and ppl are adamant it only means “I like this”. Have your friends not been suffering & do you not boop support?

                Lisa 🦔M This user is from outside of this forum
                Lisa 🦔M This user is from outside of this forum
                Lisa 🦔
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                #19

                @moss yeah, I definitely use it as a boop of friendly acknowledgement too. @sarae @awawawa

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                • Greg JohnstonG Greg Johnston

                  @moss @sarae @awawawa Agree. If someone posts that they’re having a hard time, often I might not fully understand why or how and worry about commenting delicately. So I favorite the post to be supportive, to acknowledge their discomfort .

                  SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                  SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                  Sara
                  wrote last edited by
                  #20

                  @GPJohnston @moss @awawawa yep exactly this

                  "hang in there buddy times are tough but I am on Team You and hoping for the best"

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                  • SaraS Sara

                    seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

                    folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

                    it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

                    kimaprK This user is from outside of this forum
                    kimaprK This user is from outside of this forum
                    kimapr
                    wrote last edited by
                    #21

                    Sara

                    it’s true that it doesn’t particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we’re all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

                    the funny thing about this: on the Pleroma/Misskey side of the network, favorites distribute posts across servers the same way boosts or replies do, they just don’t push the posts directly to followers’ Home Timelines — so they do increase distribution, but in a less obvious way (it’s more obvious on smaller servers like mine where any interaction could facilitate federation that would otherwise would not happen).

                    it doesn’t really work that exact way on Mastodon though from what i’ve seen, as Mastodon doesn’t seem to federate favorites at all except to the post author.

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                    • SaraS Sara

                      @GPJohnston it doesn't feed an algo so that's a problem, I guess? idk it's a mindset that doesn't fit well with how I use the system

                      Lee from ColoradoC This user is from outside of this forum
                      Lee from ColoradoC This user is from outside of this forum
                      Lee from Colorado
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                      #22

                      @sarae @GPJohnston It's also policing behavior, telling other people how they should be behaving. I don't like it. Not one bit ...

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                      • SaraS Sara

                        seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

                        folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

                        it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

                        Yjeva :tinoflag:Y This user is from outside of this forum
                        Yjeva :tinoflag:Y This user is from outside of this forum
                        Yjeva :tinoflag:
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                        #23

                        @sarae l have always thought it was like giving a friendly wave to someone on the street to let them know I have seen them even if I am not going to stop to chat right now.

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                        • SaraS Sara

                          seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

                          folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

                          it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

                          Oatmeal RaisinO This user is from outside of this forum
                          Oatmeal RaisinO This user is from outside of this forum
                          Oatmeal Raisin
                          wrote last edited by
                          #24

                          @sarae

                          I'm a big fan of making my own rules. That's why I graduated childhood.

                          🤡

                          Starring = I like! (1/1 stars!)
                          Boosting = I want everyone to see this.

                          Do what you mean. Don't let the bastards grind you down.

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                          • schratzeS schratze

                            @sarae literally who says this

                            I've never seen anyone make this recommendation

                            SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                            SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                            Sara
                            wrote last edited by
                            #25

                            @schratze I'm glad to hear this hasn't been part of your experience, since I think it's a fairly unhealthy way to approach online interactions

                            not as unhealthy as rocking up in a total stranger's replies and attacking their credibility

                            but pretty unhealthy, nonetheless!

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                            • SaraS Sara

                              @schratze I'm glad to hear this hasn't been part of your experience, since I think it's a fairly unhealthy way to approach online interactions

                              not as unhealthy as rocking up in a total stranger's replies and attacking their credibility

                              but pretty unhealthy, nonetheless!

                              schratzeS This user is from outside of this forum
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                              schratze
                              wrote last edited by
                              #26

                              @sarae I did not intend to doubt your credibility. I apologize for that.

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                              • Lee from ColoradoC Lee from Colorado

                                @sarae @GPJohnston It's also policing behavior, telling other people how they should be behaving. I don't like it. Not one bit ...

                                SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                                SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                                Sara
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                                #27

                                @colo_lee @GPJohnston I think people are often coming from a place of believing that others genuinely don't understand how things work, because they recently didn't understand themself

                                but in this case I'm like, you are correct that the tool doesn't do the thing a similarly-named tool did elsewhere

                                that is because you are now in a space designed by people who found that tool's behavior elsewhere fairly upsetting

                                (I notice the same thing about QGIS vs Esri products, in my work life)

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                                • SaraS Sara

                                  seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

                                  folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

                                  it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

                                  BeldarakB This user is from outside of this forum
                                  BeldarakB This user is from outside of this forum
                                  Beldarak
                                  wrote last edited by
                                  #28

                                  @sarae

                                  I'll usually favourite stuff to encourage people for things I don't want to actually post on my profile.

                                  You created your first 3D chair in Blender? Fav. You did some pixel art I don't like but you're proud of your progress? Fav. You posted some political comment under a post with tons of replies? Fav.

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                                  • schratzeS schratze

                                    @sarae I did not intend to doubt your credibility. I apologize for that.

                                    SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                                    SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
                                    Sara
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                                    #29

                                    @schratze thank you

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                                    • SaraS Sara

                                      @colo_lee @GPJohnston I think people are often coming from a place of believing that others genuinely don't understand how things work, because they recently didn't understand themself

                                      but in this case I'm like, you are correct that the tool doesn't do the thing a similarly-named tool did elsewhere

                                      that is because you are now in a space designed by people who found that tool's behavior elsewhere fairly upsetting

                                      (I notice the same thing about QGIS vs Esri products, in my work life)

                                      Lee from ColoradoC This user is from outside of this forum
                                      Lee from ColoradoC This user is from outside of this forum
                                      Lee from Colorado
                                      wrote last edited by
                                      #30

                                      @sarae @GPJohnston that is a generous read of the situation in your first sentence. I'll try to follow your example and share the assumption of good will ...

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                                      • BeldarakB Beldarak

                                        @sarae

                                        I'll usually favourite stuff to encourage people for things I don't want to actually post on my profile.

                                        You created your first 3D chair in Blender? Fav. You did some pixel art I don't like but you're proud of your progress? Fav. You posted some political comment under a post with tons of replies? Fav.

                                        SaraS This user is from outside of this forum
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                                        Sara
                                        wrote last edited by
                                        #31

                                        @Beldarak yeah, while I certainly recirculate some political stuff, on that esp I try to pace myself, because it can turn into such a barrage and I don't want to be like "here's a list of 47 horrible things I saw today" without chucking in some pictures of the cats or vegetables or a sunrise or whatever

                                        it's easy to get pulled into that and I definitely do sometimes

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                                        • Lisa 🦔M Lisa 🦔

                                          @moss yeah, I definitely use it as a boop of friendly acknowledgement too. @sarae @awawawa

                                          Sheru (she/her)M This user is from outside of this forum
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                                          Sheru (she/her)
                                          wrote last edited by
                                          #32

                                          @mycrowgirl @moss @sarae @awawawa I use it the same. Sometimes I don't have the spoons to reply to someone having a difficult time. I want them to know they aren't alone.

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