Because of recent, er, discussions, let repeat me it once more time for those in the back:

Being an ally to a marginalized group means to LISTEN, first and foremost. Do NOT propose solutions in advance of actual data. People from marginalized groups have almost certainly thought about their marginalization in oppressive spaces (which, yes, can include the #Fediverse ) longer and harder than you have, and thus your proposed solution is likely something that they have already discussed at length.

So listen to them. And when they are done talking, your reaction should not be:

"Here is how to fix your problems!"

but

"How can I help?"

@juergen_hubert
Thank u, That's a lesson for myself. They call me handy man, fixer, problem solver because I present a solution first and fast if I see a problem. But I mostly forget to ask for to real circumstances behind the problem. So your last sentence should be my first.